ROcakes Updated Hair ROutine!

So this year my focus is retaining length and also developing a simple routine for my hair. Check it out!

Saturday-Prior to washing I apply HE Hello Hydration Conditioner. I section my in four big parts, I then clip each part and apply the conditioner. I detangle my hair in each section twist and clip.

I then go ahead and co wash in sections, sometimes with shampoo if needed and then apply more conditioner before I rinse. After all sections are cleaned and rinsed I keep the four sections to apply my leave-in and detangler Kinky Curly Knot Today. (Swears by this stuff). So, after I detangle my hair which is already pretty much detangled from earlier I add a Argan Oil, followed up by Curls Milkshake for moisture. I also like to add some whipped Shea butter to the ends.

I then section my section for small twisting, this stretches my hair and gives it great definition for the next day. I use Carol’s Daughter Loc Butter and a little whipped Shea Butter for the end and proceed to twist.

My hair is light and fluffy and not heavy at all. With great definition.

Day 2: I take my twists apart and use a pick to fluff my roots, never picking through the ends.

Day 2 Night time routine. I part my hair in 4 sections and I braid my hair this makes the hair stretch even more! I use two big braids for the back sections 3 on the sides and 3 in the top.

Each day I repeat these steps until wash day, I may add some extra Curls Milkshake or Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Style Milk just and whipped shea butter to the ends.

I’m sticking to this routine to gain some length. I won’t be clipping my ends until December!

Happy  Growing!

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Posted by on April 28, 2011 in Hair Tutorials, The af-RO Socialite


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When it Rains and Your Natural

I’ve had the pleasure of walking slowly in a downpour, something I’ve never for fear I may ruin my bone straight tresses. If you have never experience this and you are Natural, it’s a must. Especially if you are in Cleveland, Oh where rain just won’t go away. I was coming from Whole Foods the other day and it was raining, not too hard but more that a drizzle and I proceeded to walk to my car at a normal pace not the usual panic run I do not get wet. And people starred with their mouths open like they had seen a miracle. Black girl not running to the car or covering her hair in the rain as if the water would melt her like the witch in The Wiz… It was wash day, what can I say! :)

Have you ever experienced something freeing from being natural?

Rocakes ;)

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Posted by on April 27, 2011 in The af-RO Socialite


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Dead Prez: The Beauty Within

Okay, so this is a beautiful love story video for Natural sistas; but for some reason I can’t upload it!! (slow) but anywho, visit now and check it out! Enjoy!

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Posted by on April 27, 2011 in The af-RO Socialite


Morning Tea & Rocakes! How going natural brought me closer to God..

I know, I know, you’ve probably never heard anyone say that God told them to go natural. Well, that’s my story and I’m sticking to it. In 2003 I remember it clear as day, I was waking up to get ready to go to work with my long silky hair comfortable in a wrap and scarf and suddenly I heard the Holy Spirit say, no more relaxers, it’s time for you to go natural…huh!? ‘Natural,” I yelled out loud, Oh no, no way, I loved my long, silky hair. I had always felt so beautiful with it, I had always received so many compliments on it; “How do you grow it so long?” they would ask. I was so proud. There was no way I was giving that up!  After a back and forth battle with the Lord accompanied with breakage and damage and a life turning event, I finally decided to BC. And of course I felt like the ugliest person in the world. I defined my beauty by my long hair and without it, I was nothing. Well, that is until, I began studying and learning more about Christ. I then began to feel beautiful realizing the love he had for me, how he made me, why he made me, how he sees me. I began to actually see myself the same way. Nothing sparks more conversations about Christ then my natural hair…I tell people, yeah I can’t take credit, the Lord did this! God Bless!

Love Rocakes,


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Posted by on April 11, 2011 in The af-RO Socialite


af-Ro Talk Backs: When a Man Loves a Natural Woman!

I’ve had the opportunity to talk to several women who have taken the leap from relaxed to natural and have experienced either good or bad reactions from the men in their lives. Me personally, all my guy friends were totally against it. I didn’t have a boyfriend then so they are all I had to talk to. Although there was one guy I was dating that said I looked like a bald-headed african boy # side/eye…

 “So what will you do,” they asked. “I’m gonna wear my hair!”, I would reply. I didn’t understand the big deal; why did they treat me like I had the plague!

Well after three years of being natural, I have to say I still receive some negative feed back from men when it comes to my hair. But….

I feel like my PT when he says. “But when I think about the Goodness of the Lord!!!” I digress.

 But…when I think about the man who loves the natural woman, the man who loves his natural woman…it makes me wanna shout! It is truly an amazing feeling when the man you give your heart too, truly loves you for you mind, body, soul and hair! Your hair, the very way God created it, the very way it grows out of your scalp, it makes you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world, in his eyes at least…and that’s all that matters.

So tell me, how does your man make you feel about your natural hair?

Rocakes xoxo

;) mine makes me feel like art…

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Posted by on March 29, 2011 in The af-RO Socialite


In the Midst of the Storm!!! Literally!

Cleveland Snow Storm

So many Clevelanders experienced the crazy drive home in last nights blizzard. I left my job at 3:30pm and did not arrive home until 7:00pm! It was quite the experience being in bumper to bumper traffic while it’s dark, snowy, slippery, cold, and your miles away from home and it’s nothing and I mean nothing you can do about it except wait. Not to mention I only had a quarter of a gas tank! Silly me… So wait I did.  Last night taught me a lot about patience. So what does this have to do with hair you ask? Cause patience is the one thing we need in this natural journey…and that’s exactly what it is, a journey. So I talked to God, asked Him to keep my safe, sang some songs, tried to text message my family to let them know I was safe but I couldn’t…I had no signal of course. But time went and went and I reflected and I just smiled and marveled at the beauty of the fresh fallen snow of the branches of every tree. It was so amazing I took photos! Check them out below!

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Posted by on December 9, 2010 in The af-RO Socialite



Happy Monday!!


Happy Monday Curlycakes! I missed  you all over the weekend. So now it’s December and I’m tracking my hair growth from now until my 3, yes 3 year anniversary! I cannot believe it’s been three years! OMG! I had a great weekend, yesterday was first Sunday as you can see my churchfit in the photo. A Rocakes classic! lol. No peelbox hat though, couldn’t find one to match. I had a wonderful evening reading a book and hanging with my family! Hope you enjoyed your weekend! Hit me up and tell me all about it!


Rocakes :) xoxo

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Posted by on December 6, 2010 in family, ret-RO


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