Coconut Oil?! No Thanks!

Coconut Oil “ain’t” for everybody, (excuse my poor grammar).  All over social media you see naturalista’s and you-tubers raving about it. Well, if you’re protein sensitive like me, coconut oil is your worse enemy! Coconut Oil being a triglyceride of lauric acid (principal fatty acid), has a higher affinity of hair proteins and reduces loss of protein from the hair. If the coconut oil sits on top of your hair and makes your hair feel dry like straw, you may be protein sensitive. This means your hair produces enough protein on it’s own and coconut oil sends it into overdrive. When I stopped using coconut oil and the products that contained it or any other proteins my hair thrived and the curls came a poppin! Here’s a tip: If you are protein sensitive and decide to do a protein treatment, add Aloe Vera juice and avocado oil to the treatment to maintain the perfect balance of moisture and protein. Happy Growing!

xoxo Ro


No Weave & No Heat for a year! Are you crazy?!

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The answer is yes, I am crazy.  I am crazy enough to fight against this worlds perception of beauty.  To fight against the ideals that have been embedded into my ancestors and passed down to me. I am crazy enough to make time for myself and care for my hair weekly. I am crazy enough to twist my hair at night to protect it. I am crazy enough to do whatever it takes to love myself as the woman that God created. And most of all I am crazy enough to pay you to join me, not as a PR stunt but because I care. If we can change our mindset now,  we can raise of generation of women, that will be proud of their hair and skin and break the cycle of self-hate. We are the examples now. Mothers, when you question yourself, your daughter will question herself too.  So, I raise my hand and volunteer to be crazy Noah, even if I have to and build the arc on my own. You can join me two by two or you can stay…

xoxo Ro

8 years ago…

natrual main photoEight years ago I started this hair blog. I had only been natural for three years and I wanted to educate women who made the decision to big chop or transition from relaxed to natural. I was filled with a passion to teach others how to take care of their hair and I wanted to inspire them to have the confidence to do so. In the beginning I was head over heels deep in research and reviewing products etc. I even wanted to have natural hair meet-ups but soon that fire began to fade. I turned to wigs and weaves initially to protect my natural hair and eventually to cover my natural hair. And then it began…the insecurities. They began to sit in like an overnight visitor with no plans to leave. The more I covered my hair, the less I liked it. I began to grow annoyed by it, angry that it wasn’t ever good enough. I didn’t feel pretty, or confident. I only felt beautiful when I wore my weave. So the blog died, along with my passion for my natural locks. Honestly, I never thought the day would come where I would write on this blog again. Yet, here I am…eight years later writing on this blog. They say man makes his own plans and God laughs. Just like every other area in my life when the Lord gives me direction and I try to run; He laughs and then leads me right back where he wants me. So here I am world! I’m back and I’ll spare you all the intricate details. I’m saving that for the tell all book. But here is a bit of info, I just recently big chopped for the second time. December 31, 2016 to be exact, and I couldn’t be happier. I cut off all the damage and by doing so, I’ve gained a whole new appreciation for the blessing which God has given me. My low porous, protein sensitive, fine density, kinky, curly hair.  I hope you’ll join me once again, as I go on this journey. Sorry I made you wait so long, I was under construction.

xoxo Ro (no longer Rocakes) ;)

ROcakes Updated Hair ROutine!

So this year my focus is retaining length and also developing a simple routine for my hair. Check it out!

Saturday-Prior to washing I apply HE Hello Hydration Conditioner. I section my in four big parts, I then clip each part and apply the conditioner. I detangle my hair in each section twist and clip.

I then go ahead and co wash in sections, sometimes with shampoo if needed and then apply more conditioner before I rinse. After all sections are cleaned and rinsed I keep the four sections to apply my leave-in and detangler Kinky Curly Knot Today. (Swears by this stuff). So, after I detangle my hair which is already pretty much detangled from earlier I add a Argan Oil, followed up by Curls Milkshake for moisture. I also like to add some whipped Shea butter to the ends.

I then section my section for small twisting, this stretches my hair and gives it great definition for the next day. I use Carol’s Daughter Loc Butter and a little whipped Shea Butter for the end and proceed to twist.

My hair is light and fluffy and not heavy at all. With great definition.

Day 2: I take my twists apart and use a pick to fluff my roots, never picking through the ends.

Day 2 Night time routine. I part my hair in 4 sections and I braid my hair this makes the hair stretch even more! I use two big braids for the back sections 3 on the sides and 3 in the top.

Each day I repeat these steps until wash day, I may add some extra Curls Milkshake or Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Style Milk just and whipped shea butter to the ends.

I’m sticking to this routine to gain some length. I won’t be clipping my ends until December!

Happy  Growing!

When it Rains and Your Natural

I’ve had the pleasure of walking slowly in a downpour, something I’ve never for fear I may ruin my bone straight tresses. If you have never experience this and you are Natural, it’s a must. Especially if you are in Cleveland, Oh where rain just won’t go away. I was coming from Whole Foods the other day and it was raining, not too hard but more that a drizzle and I proceeded to walk to my car at a normal pace not the usual panic run I do not get wet. And people starred with their mouths open like they had seen a miracle. Black girl not running to the car or covering her hair in the rain as if the water would melt her like the witch in The Wiz… It was wash day, what can I say! :)

Have you ever experienced something freeing from being natural?

Rocakes ;)

Morning Tea & Rocakes! How going natural brought me closer to God..

I know, I know, you’ve probably never heard anyone say that God told them to go natural. Well, that’s my story and I’m sticking to it. In 2003 I remember it clear as day, I was waking up to get ready to go to work with my long silky hair comfortable in a wrap and scarf and suddenly I heard the Holy Spirit say, no more relaxers, it’s time for you to go natural…huh!? ‘Natural,” I yelled out loud, Oh no, no way, I loved my long, silky hair. I had always felt so beautiful with it, I had always received so many compliments on it; “How do you grow it so long?” they would ask. I was so proud. There was no way I was giving that up!  After a back and forth battle with the Lord accompanied with breakage and damage and a life turning event, I finally decided to BC. And of course I felt like the ugliest person in the world. I defined my beauty by my long hair and without it, I was nothing. Well, that is until, I began studying and learning more about Christ. I then began to feel beautiful realizing the love he had for me, how he made me, why he made me, how he sees me. I began to actually see myself the same way. Nothing sparks more conversations about Christ then my natural hair…I tell people, yeah I can’t take credit, the Lord did this! God Bless!

Love Rocakes,