af-Ro Talk Backs: When a Man Loves a Natural Woman!

I’ve had the opportunity to talk to several women who have taken the leap from relaxed to natural and have experienced either good or bad reactions from the men in their lives. Me personally, all my guy friends were totally against it. I didn’t have a boyfriend then so they are all I had to talk to. Although there was one guy I was dating that said I looked like a bald-headed african boy # side/eye…

 “So what will you do,” they asked. “I’m gonna wear my hair!”, I would reply. I didn’t understand the big deal; why did they treat me like I had the plague!

Well after three years of being natural, I have to say I still receive some negative feed back from men when it comes to my hair. But….

I feel like my PT when he says. “But when I think about the Goodness of the Lord!!!” I digress.

 But…when I think about the man who loves the natural woman, the man who loves his natural woman…it makes me wanna shout! It is truly an amazing feeling when the man you give your heart too, truly loves you for you mind, body, soul and hair! Your hair, the very way God created it, the very way it grows out of your scalp, it makes you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world, in his eyes at least…and that’s all that matters.

So tell me, how does your man make you feel about your natural hair?

Rocakes xoxo

;) mine makes me feel like art…


In the Midst of the Storm!!! Literally!

Cleveland Snow Storm

So many Clevelanders experienced the crazy drive home in last nights blizzard. I left my job at 3:30pm and did not arrive home until 7:00pm! It was quite the experience being in bumper to bumper traffic while it’s dark, snowy, slippery, cold, and your miles away from home and it’s nothing and I mean nothing you can do about it except wait. Not to mention I only had a quarter of a gas tank! Silly me… So wait I did.  Last night taught me a lot about patience. So what does this have to do with hair you ask? Cause patience is the one thing we need in this natural journey…and that’s exactly what it is, a journey. So I talked to God, asked Him to keep my safe, sang some songs, tried to text message my family to let them know I was safe but I couldn’t…I had no signal of course. But time went and went and I reflected and I just smiled and marveled at the beauty of the fresh fallen snow of the branches of every tree. It was so amazing I took photos! Check them out below!

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Happy Monday!!


Happy Monday Curlycakes! I missed  you all over the weekend. So now it’s December and I’m tracking my hair growth from now until my 3, yes 3 year anniversary! I cannot believe it’s been three years! OMG! I had a great weekend, yesterday was first Sunday as you can see my churchfit in the photo. A Rocakes classic! lol. No peelbox hat though, couldn’t find one to match. I had a wonderful evening reading a book and hanging with my family! Hope you enjoyed your weekend! Hit me up and tell me all about it!


Rocakes :) xoxo

Design Essentials SuperFantastic Curlycreams!!

Okay Curlycakes! So I’m here to dish on how much I love Design Essentials Curl Creams! They have an entire line dedicated to natural hair. The shampoo and conditioner just didn’t do it for me….but their creams are a total winner! The daily moisturizer was okay, sometimes I use it and sometimes I don’t. But any who, I love those darn curl creams. They have two types, The Curl stretching Cream and the Curl Define Gel. And let me tell you…The NAmes Don’t Lie! The products performed their duties, well worth the price!  The products kept my hair soft, moist, non-greasy, manageable and I didn’t have to reapply every night. My hair type is 4a/4b very dense and loves moisture. It can’t get enough of the stuff! So I have to tell you ladies…I swear by this stuff. The next test will be to see how it holds up in the winter, I started  using the product in the fall and it worked wonders! Keep reading to see how I use my Design Essentials Curly Creams!

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Rocakes Hair Growth Update! Check out the Pics!

Hey Curlycakes! Here’s is some updates on my hair growth. Check out the photos! I’m so excited about how far I’ve come. Praise God! Next I’m going to do a review on the Design Essentials Natural Hair Curl Creams..they helped me create these dreamy curls!!

rocakes xoxo :)

White Hair Stylists: Cheaper & Better for Naturals?

For the Natural Curlycake who wears her hair straight….have I got news for you! White Hair Stylists are cheaper and better!!! I recently went on this venture of maybe, possibly, thinking about straightening my hair….(right, that what I said), so on my venture I discovered that black women Assume that white women cannot straighten their natural hair! My mom and I went into a well known upscale hair salon, in Beachwood Place, Ohio to look for some products I could use to protect my hair as I blew it straight. Much to my surprise most of the women sitting in the chairs were black! And they were getting their natural hair shampooed, blow dried and flat ironed straight by white hair stylists!! I thought to myself “Word”…and they looked great!! I really went nuts when I found out they only charged $23 buck for a wash and blow dry!!!! This is insane, if I were to go to a black hair salon I would pay $55 on the low end $75 to $80 on the high end…sheer robbery!!! Cleveland, Ohio..listen to me when I tell you. Check out some other options!

So that’s not the end of my story…. My mom goes over to the counter (as if her eye witness wasn’t good enough) and she asks, “Do you all do natural hair”? The stylists looks at her and says, “What’s Natural hair?” then politely says, “Ma’m you mean curly hair? Yes we do all hair types,” she said with a smile. Women of other races don’t consider our hair “Natural” it’s just really curly to them! And trust me, white women are the queens of turning curly hair straight, because majority of them have curly hair!! We are the ones locking our hair in some type of weird box…. Check it out for yourself! I wouldn’t lie!

*disclaimer-this is only for the flat ironing curlycake-wouldn’t recommend for locs or*

Rocakes ;)